• Fri, Mar 15 - 12:42 pm ET

All You College-Educated Ladies Are Unlikely To Have A Baby Unless There’s A Ring Involved

child out of wedlockI froth at the mere sight of marriage data. Anything that puts hard numbers to the shifting landscape of matrimony, family, and women makes me almost about as giddy as Sylvia Plath‘s own self portrait. And to properly top off my Friday, The Atlantic has published a new glimpse at where we’re all at. Once again, your education level has just about everything to do with your choices.

Keeping with much of what has already been observed about contemporary marriage in the United States, getting married still remains heavily steeped in your socioeconomic status. Modern marriage is supremely about class, perhaps more so than anything else.

The Atlantic observes that the average age of sauntering down the aisle has been bumped up once again to 27 for women and 29 for women (as of 2012, it was around 26 for ladies and 27-ish for men). But among the many gems this data reveals, one noted finding was that ladies who hold a college degree are less likely to have a baby out of wedlock:

College-educated women are unlikely to have a child before getting married. For college-educated women, the average age of first birth (30) has risen along with the average age of marriage (27). Only 12 percent of births by college graduates are to unmarried women.

Conversely, women who are not college-educated are reportedly very, very likely to have a child out of wedlock:

Less-educated women have a much different experience with marriage and childbirth. For women without a college degree, the average age of first birth has not risen apace with the average age of marriage. The average age of first birth for this group is lower than the average marriage age. For women who dropped out of high school, the average age of first birth is 20, while the average marriage age is 25; 83 percent of first births in this demographic are to unmarried mothers. For women who graduated from high school and went to some college, the average age for first birth is 24 and the average marriage age is 27; 58 percent of first births are to unwed mothers.

Other fun facts include that a couple that is not legally wed at the time of their first child’s birth are “far more likely” to throw in the towel. The Alantic reports a 13 percent chance that mommy and daddy will break up within the first five years of baby’s life. But even if you’re doing the living together thing, your odds of splitting during that five year bracket bump up to 39 percent.

Happy family-ing!

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  • Daisy

    I would be curious to know (although I don’t know if there’s a way to find out) how much of that is having an education delays having children, and how much is having children prevents an education. I’m 23 and most of the people I know with kids were part or most of the way through a post-secondary education, or about to start, when they got pregnant and had to put that on hold. I know correlation doesn’t imply causation, so there’s no way to tell from this data alone, but if there were a way to study that, I would be very interested to know.

    • Sara610

      I think this is a very good point. I have three sisters-in-law; two were mothers before the age of 20, and they both put their college degrees on hold either permanently or temporarily. The third finished college before getting married and having children, and I waited by far the longest to do both of those things; I also have an advanced degree and part of the reason I waited until 30 to have my first child was that I wanted to go to grad school and have a few years to focus solely on my career first.
      I’d be interested in knowing whether anyone has researched this question. I’m sure someone has, at some point…….if not, someone should!

  • Andrea

    In other news, water is wet

  • Amanda

    Well, it makes sense. I’m not about to throw my $60,000 tuition out the window to have a kid in the middle of it…

  • Rollergirl09

    Ahh, yes, articles like this furthering the assumption that single moms are somehow stupider than other people. Any single mom can tell you that the constant stigmatizing is frustrating at best, but actually downright depressing. Some unwed mothers who were never married have college degrees and great careers.

    • Lindsey

      As an unwed mother who was never married and has a college degree and a great career I’d like to say thanks for pointing this out. I got engaged and pregnant in college. By the time I graduated (one year late since I DID take a semester off after she was born) I had a toddler but the fiance and I had called it quits. I have a very fulfilling career and own my home, but people still look at me sideways when they find out I was never married to my daughter’s dad.

  • Lastango

    I’m glad to see this piece, Koa. I’m fed up with the fact-adverse boosterism of single motherhood as a viable lifestyle choice, and the spinning of dangerous social decay as progress. Though the consequences of being an unwed mother aren’t your subject here, your references to the context of societal trends draw the reader to consider the implications, as well as other topics such as the possible reasons why the age of marriage and motherhood is rising for college-educated women.

  • AmazingAsh

    Here’s to being part of the 12%!!

  • CW

    The “shotgun marriage” is alive and well among college grads but has largely disappeared among the less educated. I know several couples who had a hasty wedding as a result of an unplanned pregnancy. It is still seen as the right thing to do in my social circle. I’d be curious to see what percent of first-time births among college grads occur less than 9 months after the wedding.