• Tue, Feb 19 2013

Parents Forcing Their Teen To Get An Abortion Have Agreed To Get Their Hands Off Her Body

forced abortionThe unidentified pregnant 16-year-old who was reportedly being forced to have an abortion by her parents will be threatened no longer. The latest development in the completely anti-choice manipulation of pro-choice legislation reveals that the abortion-pushing parents have officially agreed to knock it off. Her body. Not yours.

CNN reports that yesterday in a state court, the girl’s mother and father agreed not to force her to abort. Stephen Casey, a lawyer and founder of The Texas Center for Defense of Life, described it as an “agreed order.” The lawyer reportedly argued that access to abortion doesn’t equal insta-abortions for all unintended pregnancies:

Casey had argued that Roe v. Wade, the historic 1973 Supreme Court decision that guaranteed women the right to have an abortion, works both ways.

“Roe was about the right to choose,” Casey told CNN prior to the order being signed. “This young woman has the right to choose to have her child.”

Since the 16-year-old and her boyfriend, Evan Madison, learned that they were expecting, they “were always determined to have the baby.”  Abortion was never on the table for the couple.  The two plan to marry, which they can legally do in Texas with parental consent. But good luck getting that at this point.

The divorced parents were seated separately from the teen couple all through the court proceedings. They have denied all of the following allegations:

The lawsuit alleged that the girl’s mother threatened to “slip (the teen) an abortion pill,” took her daughter’s phone and car and kept her home from school to punish her for choosing not to abort her fetus. The mother told the teen that she was “making the biggest mistake of her life” by choosing to have the child and that the mother herself had undergone numerous abortions, so her daughter should, too, the lawsuit said.

It added that the pregnant girl’s father told her he “was going to look into canceling” her health insurance. He texted his daughter that she “needs an ass whoopin’,” the document said.

The parents told their daughter she could “continue to live in misery” in their home or she could “have the abortion and tell everyone it was a miscarriage,” the lawsuit added.

In addition to calling the allegations “baseless,” mom and dad have asked that their fees for retaining an attorney be reimbursed. So far, that’s not happening.

The lawyers for the teenage girl, now 10 weeks pregnant, were initially contacted by the boyfriend’s mother. Upon explaining the situation and threats to The Texas Center for Defense of Life, lawyers agreed to defend the girl free of charge.

But despite the generosity of the center, the legal team assigned to the girl have really dropped the ball when protecting her identity:

“Under Texas procedure when it’s a case involving and alleging abuse of a minor, the minor’s identity should be protected, and the girl’s attorneys might have violated that,” said Susan Hays, an attorney and legal adviser to Jane’s Due Process, an Austin-based nonprofit organization that represents pregnant minors in the state.

Jane’s Due Process, which supports the right to legal abortion, is not involved in this case.

“There’s an understanding that we will not make law on the back of a 16-year-old girl, and that’s what her attorneys are doing,” said Hays. “I’m appalled that they’ve done this to this girl. Putting the girl’s parents’ names in court documents … her attorneys have done a lousy job protecting her confidentiality.”

Hays said the lawyers could have used the parents’ initials or included less detail about the family.

No good deed goes unpunished, I guess.

(photo: Dominik Michalek / Shutterstock)

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  • bla

    Hey, as long as she doesn’t go crawling to mom and dad to help finance the kid then sure, have it. But I bet these parent’s know that within a year of the kid being born the excitement of having a baby will go away and they will be stuck with taking care of another kid for 18 years.

    • Cee

      YES! See, I wasn’t keen on her being forced to have an abortion; yet, I can see where her parents are coming from. THEY don’t want to have another baby, which is what might end up happening. This is a 16 year old girl. The odds of her boyfriend sticking around “forever and ever” are low, possible, but low (hello, Teen Mom), how are they going to finish high school? Who will watch the child while they are doing this? what are her and the father’s plans for college? Are there any? If there are, who will take care of the child while they are at school? If there aren’t, what will be their source of income to keep a roof over their head, take the child to the doctor and have food for all three? And, again, who will take care of the child while this is accomplished?
      Is it possible for a teenaged mother or couple to make it? Yes. It takes very hard work and determination. And , most of the time it takes the helping hand of a very reluctant grandparent who thought they were almost done raising children. This is something that teenage couples who are actively trying to conceive (which, dear god why?!) should think about because odds are is that they are going to rely heavily on someone that may not have wanted this as much as they did, yet will end up doing a lot of the work for them.

    • jsterling93

      Some of the stuff being brought up as the parents being evil like taking away the phone and the car just sound like parents saying “ok you are an adult I won’t be giving you anything else. you are on your own.” My 20 year old niece threw a fit when my mother who she lives with told her that if she planned to stay there when she had the baby that she and the baby would have to share a room. Apparently she expected my mother to kick out my rent paying nephew to accommodate my niece’s desire to not have to share a room with her child. She also threw a fit when my mom over heard her talking about going out to party as soon as the baby was born and asked her where the baby would be while she was out drinking since my mom sure as hell wasn’t taking care of it.

    • Cee

      Ew! Seriously? The entitlement is strong on your niece. This is what I mean about teen and young pregnancy. It becomes other people’s problems. Other people become the wallet and the babysitter for that child cuz the teen or teen couple realizes how hard it is and wants to go back and hide behind mom or adult relative’s skirt, and by then its too late and someone will be forced to deal with the baby and sadly, most of time it is not the person that wanted to have it in the first place.

    • mary

      I know several teenage mothers. All have gone on to further education, supported themselves and most have maintained their relationships, while raising the child themselves. They have all taken full responsibility for their children and don’t expect anything. Yes, some teenage parents expect extra help and money, but not all of them. You are all wrong to be so cynical about teenage parents.

  • anon

    A young mother doesn’t love her child any less cause she hasn’t hit 25. Lots of people have children with little education and minimum wage jobs, its hard but all that child really needs is to be loved. Sounds like these kids feel they have enough of that to jmp in with both feet. A baby isn’t a puppy, I was a teen mum and I loved my daughter so completely I was there ever second I could with her. A mother is a mother no matter what society says is ideal.

    • Cee

      A baby doesn’t just need love. It needs food, diapers, proper healthcare, a roof over their head, and someone to take care of them. Yes, a mother is a mother, but sometimes a very young mother doesn’t realize that babies don’t just need love. They are too young to see all the little things that will become quite expensive or time consuming when it comes to a child and that “just love” bubble sometimes bursts once they are holding a wailing child at 3am or realizing how much diapers cost and how quickly they go.

    • Makabit

      All true, but: if we would tell parents that just because they are willing to take care of their grandchild, they still can’t force their daughter to carry an unwanted pregnancy to term, we can’t tell parents they can make their daughter terminate a pregnancy.

      Her choice, not ‘her choice unless we agree more with what her parents want, and can see how this might affect them too’.

    • Cee

      I don’t advocate for this girl to be forced to have an abortion, like I said above these comments. By reading what the teen girl said, at sixteen she claims to have been actively determined to conceive and that her and her boyfriend want to get married..at SIXTEEN, which sounds quite immature and possibly running with teenage lovey emotions; teenage lovey emotions who have not taken into account the cost of children and the cost of living expenses for a teenaged family with possibly no diploma and very little (if any) work experience, it is unfortunate that the soon to be grandparents (who did not want this grandchild in the first place) will probably be picking up the tabs and the slack their child or the teen couple runs into.

      Yes, it is her choice, yet, her choice will most likely greatly affect people who did not want the child.

    • mary

      People often suggest that teenage emotions are less valid, that teenage relationships won’t last, that they don’t understand what real life is like. Those people are morons. Teenagers can feel just as strongly about something as adults, their emotions aren’t less real because of their age.

      This girl is right, all you need is love. Because her love for her child will drive her to earn money, get a career, work at her relationship. Her love for her family will mean that she will do anything to support it. Love isn’t meaningless, it can be the strongest thing in the world and it will make her a good parent. Many teenagers cope with babies, on far less money than this girl will have. Don’t underestimate her because of her age.

    • chickadee

      Since when are 20-24 year-olds considered teen mothers? I had my first at 24, and besides love we gave her all of the things that Cee mentions below. That’s part of being a mother.

    • meg

      Love doesn’t buy diapers, take them to pediatrician appointments, or start a college education fund. Children need love, yes, but time, and MONEY too. Saying “all you need is love” sounds … well, a lot like something a pregnant 16 year old would blurt out.

  • Renee J

    Parents shouldn’t force their teenager to get an abortion, just like parents shouldn’t prevent their teenagers from getting one.

  • CrazyFor Kate

    It’s one thing to say “If you have the baby, you have to get a job and support it”, but to deny her reproductive choice, in either direction? Reprehensible. Choice goes both ways, and people who force others to have abortions are just as awful as people who force others not to have one.

    • Amy

      Umm, I just want to point out that NO ONE can force this girl to have an abortion. Her parents might heavily reccommend that she get one, and they may even threaten her to get one, but a doctor would never terminate a pregnancy if the pregnant woman in question was against it.

    • CrazyFor Kate

      There were reports of them slipping her medication to cause an abortion. That sounds like forcing to me.

    • lea

      Not to mention that it may be incredibly difficult to neigh on impossible to go against your parent’s wishes as a minor- depending on your family, your maturity, your access to outside help and your relationship with said family.