Iām starting to think so because recently Iāve been posting on my Facebook page little clips of my daughter singing. I, of course, only put them up because I think sheās fabulous. Why would I post a clip of my child singing if I thought she sucked? I know sheās no Celine Dion, but for a 9-year-old, I think sheās pretty darn good.
I filmed her last singing lesson and sent a copy to her father. I called him later that night and asked him what he thought. āWell, I donāt think sheās going to end up on Broadway, thatās for sure.ā Say what? Did he not see what I saw? Did he not hear her voice like I do? I told him I thought he was wrong (this has been our only parental disagreement ever) and that she IS going to end up on Broadway, not because I want her to, but because she wants to. Iām only doing what I can to help her by getting her singing lessons.
āI bet you $50 she will end up on Broadway,ā I told her father. He took the bet. But then I added, āIt could be off-Broadway too.ā He laughed. But it really got me thinking. I used to be very objective when it came to my daughter. I always tell people ā including her ā that she wasnāt a very attractive baby. She is, however, now a beautiful girl. (Again, have I lost all objectivity? Is she really as gorgeous as I think she is? Yes!) So I showed my fiancĆ© what I posted on FB, the clips of my daughter singing.
āDonāt you think sheās so good?ā I asked. āTell me honestly. I need to know if Iām being objective.ā
He took a pause. āWell, sheāsā¦good.ā
I pressed, āBut you donāt think sheās amazing?ā
He answered in the negative and then told me that his ex wanted his daughter to try out for a higher level soccer team, and his response was, āSheās not good enough.ā He says, āI can be objective. Sheās just not good enough.ā
So, now Iām feeling a little idiotic and a little embarrassed. I mean, here I am, posting clips of my daughter singing and apparently Iām the only one who thinks sheās awesome. Now Iām left wondering if all the people who watch her on my Facebook page are thinking, āThat mother is insane! She thinks her kid is so fucking amazing and really she SUCKS!ā and then they are laughing at me behind my back. Or, when they comment, āAmazing!ā are they really just writing that to be nice?
When I spoke to my friends about this, and the fact that my daughterās own father and my fiancĆ© didnāt think my daughter was all that great a singer, they were all like, āAre you kidding? Sheās great! Sheās wonderful!ā Of course, these are my friends and I do expect my friends to lie to me when it comes to my proud mommy moments.
I asked one girlfriend if she thought people would think that I was insane for posting clips of my daughter singing, even though, according to the two MALE figures in her life, sheās not amazing at all.
āTheyāre going to think you are a proud mother. Thatās all. And they are going to think sheās cute and talented.ā
How is it that I canāt be objective about my own daughter or son (heās the cutest baby in the world!) but their fathers can be? My fiancĆ© admitted to me that he didnāt think Holt was all that cute when he was born and just looked like any other baby, while I was like, āOh my god. Heās the cutest little boy ever!ā
Is it just a maternal thing? Do we have softer hearts? Iām not totally blind, or make that deaf, when it comes to my daughterās singing. When I listen to her, I can hear when sheās off pitch, so I guess I can be objective. But still, overall, I think she is pretty good. Make that really good, unlike the men in her life, who I kind of want to punch for being so OBJECTIVE!