Iâm starting to think so because recently Iâve been posting on my Facebook page little clips of my daughter singing. I, of course, only put them up because I think sheâs fabulous. Why would I post a clip of my child singing if I thought she sucked? I know sheâs no Celine Dion, but for a 9-year-old, I think sheâs pretty darn good.
I filmed her last singing lesson and sent a copy to her father. I called him later that night and asked him what he thought. âWell, I donât think sheâs going to end up on Broadway, thatâs for sure.â Say what? Did he not see what I saw? Did he not hear her voice like I do? I told him I thought he was wrong (this has been our only parental disagreement ever) and that she IS going to end up on Broadway, not because I want her to, but because she wants to. Iâm only doing what I can to help her by getting her singing lessons.
âI bet you $50 she will end up on Broadway,â I told her father. He took the bet. But then I added, âIt could be off-Broadway too.â He laughed. But it really got me thinking. I used to be very objective when it came to my daughter. I always tell people â including her â that she wasnât a very attractive baby. She is, however, now a beautiful girl. (Again, have I lost all objectivity? Is she really as gorgeous as I think she is? Yes!) So I showed my fiancĂ© what I posted on FB, the clips of my daughter singing.
âDonât you think sheâs so good?â I asked. âTell me honestly. I need to know if Iâm being objective.â
He took a pause. âWell, sheâsâŠgood.â
I pressed, âBut you donât think sheâs amazing?â
He answered in the negative and then told me that his ex wanted his daughter to try out for a higher level soccer team, and his response was, âSheâs not good enough.â He says, âI can be objective. Sheâs just not good enough.â
So, now Iâm feeling a little idiotic and a little embarrassed. I mean, here I am, posting clips of my daughter singing and apparently Iâm the only one who thinks sheâs awesome. Now Iâm left wondering if all the people who watch her on my Facebook page are thinking, âThat mother is insane! She thinks her kid is so fucking amazing and really she SUCKS!â and then they are laughing at me behind my back. Or, when they comment, âAmazing!â are they really just writing that to be nice?
When I spoke to my friends about this, and the fact that my daughterâs own father and my fiancĂ© didnât think my daughter was all that great a singer, they were all like, âAre you kidding? Sheâs great! Sheâs wonderful!â Of course, these are my friends and I do expect my friends to lie to me when it comes to my proud mommy moments.
I asked one girlfriend if she thought people would think that I was insane for posting clips of my daughter singing, even though, according to the two MALE figures in her life, sheâs not amazing at all.
âTheyâre going to think you are a proud mother. Thatâs all. And they are going to think sheâs cute and talented.â
How is it that I canât be objective about my own daughter or son (heâs the cutest baby in the world!) but their fathers can be? My fiancĂ© admitted to me that he didnât think Holt was all that cute when he was born and just looked like any other baby, while I was like, âOh my god. Heâs the cutest little boy ever!â
Is it just a maternal thing? Do we have softer hearts? Iâm not totally blind, or make that deaf, when it comes to my daughterâs singing. When I listen to her, I can hear when sheâs off pitch, so I guess I can be objective. But still, overall, I think she is pretty good. Make that really good, unlike the men in her life, who I kind of want to punch for being so OBJECTIVE!