I‚Äôm starting to think so because recently I‚Äôve been posting on my Facebook page little clips of my daughter singing. I, of course, only put them up because I think she‚Äôs fabulous. Why would I post a clip of my child singing if I thought she sucked? I know she‚Äôs no Celine Dion, but for a 9-year-old, I think she‚Äôs pretty darn good.
I filmed her last singing lesson and sent a copy to her father. I called him later that night and asked him what he thought. ‚ÄúWell, I don‚Äôt think she‚Äôs going to end up on Broadway, that‚Äôs for sure.‚ÄĚ Say what? Did he not see what I saw? Did he not hear her voice like I do? I told him I thought he was wrong (this has been our only parental disagreement ever) and that she IS going to end up on Broadway, not because I want her to, but because she wants to. I‚Äôm only doing what I can to help her by getting her singing lessons.
‚ÄúI bet you $50 she will end up on Broadway,‚ÄĚ I told her father. He took the bet. But then I added, ‚ÄúIt could be off-Broadway too.‚ÄĚ He laughed. But it really got me thinking. I used to be very objective when it came to my daughter. I always tell people ‚Äď including her ‚Äď that she wasn‚Äôt a very attractive baby. She is, however, now a beautiful girl. (Again, have I lost all objectivity? Is she really as gorgeous as I think she is? Yes!) So I showed my fianc√© what I posted on FB, the clips of my daughter singing.
‚ÄúDon‚Äôt you think she‚Äôs so good?‚ÄĚ I asked. ‚ÄúTell me honestly. I need to know if I‚Äôm being objective.‚ÄĚ
He took a pause. ‚ÄúWell, she‚Äôs‚Ä¶good.‚ÄĚ
I pressed, ‚ÄúBut you don‚Äôt think she‚Äôs amazing?‚ÄĚ
He answered in the negative and then told me that his ex wanted his daughter to try out for a higher level soccer team, and his response was, ‚ÄúShe‚Äôs not good enough.‚ÄĚ He says, ‚ÄúI can be objective. She‚Äôs just not good enough.‚ÄĚ
So, now I‚Äôm feeling a little idiotic and a little embarrassed. I mean, here I am, posting clips of my daughter singing and apparently I‚Äôm the only one who thinks she‚Äôs awesome. Now I‚Äôm left wondering if all the people who watch her on my Facebook page are thinking, ‚ÄúThat mother is insane! She thinks her kid is so fucking amazing and really she SUCKS!‚ÄĚ and then they are laughing at me behind my back. Or, when they comment, ‚ÄúAmazing!‚ÄĚ are they really just writing that to be nice?
When I spoke to my friends about this, and the fact that my daughter‚Äôs own father and my fianc√© didn‚Äôt think my daughter was all that great a singer, they were all like, ‚ÄúAre you kidding? She‚Äôs great! She‚Äôs wonderful!‚ÄĚ Of course, these are my friends and I do expect my friends to lie to me when it comes to my proud mommy moments.
I asked one girlfriend if she thought people would think that I was insane for posting clips of my daughter singing, even though, according to the two MALE figures in her life, she‚Äôs not amazing at all.
‚ÄúThey‚Äôre going to think you are a proud mother. That‚Äôs all. And they are going to think she‚Äôs cute and talented.‚ÄĚ
How is it that I can‚Äôt be objective about my own daughter or son (he‚Äôs the cutest baby in the world!) but their fathers can be? My fianc√© admitted to me that he didn‚Äôt think Holt was all that cute when he was born and just looked like any other baby, while I was like, ‚ÄúOh my god. He‚Äôs the cutest little boy ever!‚ÄĚ
Is it just a maternal thing? Do we have softer hearts? I‚Äôm not totally blind, or make that deaf, when it comes to my daughter‚Äôs singing. When I listen to her, I can hear when she‚Äôs off pitch, so I guess I can be objective. But still, overall, I think she is pretty good. Make that really good, unlike the men in her life, who I kind of want to punch for being so OBJECTIVE!