• Wed, Jan 2 2013

I Have Not Received One Invitation To An Ultrasound Party That All Of You Hip Moms-To-Be Are Having

shutterstock_111286868No one told me that ultrasound parties are a thing now! You guys are all having these ultrasound parties where you hire ultrasound technicians to come to your house and show all of your guests your unborn children (or should I say “pre-born” children?) and possibly serving yummy cupcakes and I have not been invited to a single one. I’m not sure if this is a brave new world in extreme over-sharing or a trend that could go horribly wrong, but Today.com is now reporting that it is an actual thing:

Licensed ultrasound techs Teena Gold and Christy Foster, both members of the American Registry for Diagnostic Medical Sonography, perform 3D/4D ultrasound weeknights and Saturdays around northwest Arkansas. The pair founded Baby Face and More as soon as they could afford a high-quality mobile ultrasound machine of their own. Now they charge $100-$350 to help parents indulge their craving for another glimpse of baby. Guests optional.

“Gender reveal is probably the bulk of our work,” Gold said, referring to parties where parents and guests find out the gender of the unborn baby together in real time.

The Enderles weren’t going for a dramatic moment; they already knew they were expecting a boy. This party was about getting a longer, less-hurried look.

“It’s more of an experience and less of an in-and-out procedure,” said Gold, pointing out that medical ultrasound often does not allow parents to savor the wonder of the life growing inside them.

“This way gets you out of that clinic setting,” added Foster.

Whatever the parents’ motivation, the ultrasound  party trend appears to be spreading. From California to Florida, services like Peek a View and Miracles Imaging help expectant parents turn a procedure into a party.

Looking at the Peek A View website, these viewing parties cost $350 and up. What I want to know is what happens is the technician can’t hear the baby heartbeat or else something is horribly wrong with the fetus and you discover this in front of all of your family and friends? That seems to me like it would totally ruin the whole “party” atmosphere. And call me old-fashioned, but I always thought ultrasounds were sort of a private affair where you were accompanied by your partner or a family member, and not in the middle of your dining room surrounded by cousins you barely see and people you work with, getting ultrasound gel squatted on your stomach while people chomp on mini-quiches. Maybe this is a start of a new 2013 trend and ultrasound parties will become the hot new thing and everyone will be having them, but I’m not sure I’d actually want to go to one, even if there are cupcakes served. Babies are adorable, but I sort of like the ones who are living outside of their moms more than the ones who are still inside. I think I’d rather wait to meet a new baby after it has been born.

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  • Justme

    STFU Parents posted about this and I have to admit….it doesn’t really bother me. Is it oversharing? I guess it depends on the context. If it’s a small group of very close girlfriends or related women, then probably not. If they are doing the vaginal ultrasound in front of your entire family, friends and even some co-workers…then yes.

    There are a number of reasons that I personally would not do it, but I’m just not in the business of judging other people for how they wish to celebrate the pregnancy and impending birth.

    And about the “not finding a heartbeat” thing….if I WERE to throw this kind of party, I would invite only women that are close friends – you know the friends that I would lean on in the case of a miscarriage.

    Finally, just because you’re invited doesn’t mean you have to go if you’re that weirded out by the idea.

    • meg

      “There are a number of reasons that I personally would not do it, but I’m
      just not in the business of judging other people for how they wish to
      celebrate the pregnancy and impending birth.”

      Then why are you reading STFU Parents? ;-)

    • Justme

      Because I don’t think hosting a party like this is the same kind of overshare that STFU discusses. She merely posted this to her Facebook page as a topic, she didn’t write a post about it. For me the difference is this: if you are invited to a private party such as this….if it makes you uncomfortable you have the ability to decline the invitation and not be subjected to what you deem as too personal. On Facebook however, a picture of a fresh placenta or baby poop can show up in your newsfeed without warning. There is a difference.

  • jsterling93

    I live in NW Arkansas and didn’t know about this. I would haven’t done it but honestly I don’t get why people act so grossed out by ultrasounds. I just had a level 2 which is suppose to be really detailed and I couldn’t make out a thing.

    • meg

      I think you capture it in your last line … “I just had a level 2 which is suppose [sic] to be really detailed and I couldn’t make out a thing.”

      No one wants to attend what is, essentially, an extra baby shower and be forced to coo over what’s barely indistinguishable from a burrito for a really, really long time. Even when it makes the recognizable-as-human leap, it’s not exactly as entertaining as, say, a Quentin Tarantino movie. There’s no “It has your grandma’s nose” etc in a fetus (as opposed to a baby.)

      I understand why ultrasound pictures are really meaningful to the couple, and perhaps to their immediate family. But why make a party out of it? Especially when there’s such a high margin of error? (E.g. the sudden tragic discovery of no heartbeat.) There’s a difference between “meaningful” and “enjoyable.”

    • LiteBrite

      Actually in my ultrasound you could make out my son’s face, and it looked like he was sticking his tongue out at us. Kind of foreshadowed what I was in for. :)

  • wannalitter

    I’m guessing these are not transvaginal…? Either way, no, just no. Nobody is that excited about your little “peanut” that they want to sit in on a medical procedure. Also, lets not forget, this is a human, not a cute new handbag to show off.