• Wed, Jan 2 2013

I Shared Post-Baby Bikini Photos On Facebook And I’m Proud Of It

bikini bodyI recently spent some time in Mexico on vacation. While vacationing, it’s kind of hard for people not to want to take pictures of you. Since we’re mostly on the beach, these photos usually include photos of me in bathing suits.

Let me remind you all, I had a baby six months ago. Let me also remind you that this kid made me gain 60 friggen pounds. So was I ready to have my picture taken in a bikini, the only type of bathing suit I own? Well, apparently it didn’t matter, because photos were taken. But I went one step further. I actually posted my post-baby body baring bikini shots on Facebook, because, hey, I’m not that vain and I did just have a baby. I was sure people would understand.

The responses were what I found interesting. What mother doesn’t feel like absolute crap about her body after having a baby? (If you say you don’t, I think you are lying.) I get so frustrated when people tell me, “Nine months on, nine months off.” I remember with my first child going into a clothing store and the saleslady I know saying to me, “You look amazing! Didn’t you just have a child?” “Um, yes,” I responded. “TWO YEARS AGO!”

That was before I was on Facebook and had decided to let the world (or my almost 3000 friends, most of whom I don’t know) see me in all my nearly naked glory. I was kind of surprised at the comments, not because they were bad, but it just proves my point that people definitely care about their bodies after having a baby.

One of my best friends wrote, “U R too fat. You should really consider covering up. Xo.” Of course she was joking. Most of the comments started with, “Um, didn’t you just have a baby?” Or, “Jealous of your flat stomach.” Another one of my friends wrote, “I hate you. Unfollowing. Xo” Again, add the ‘xo’ and you know it’s a joke.

One person wrote “OMG” and I wasn’t sure if this was a good thing or bad thing. I could take it to mean, “OMG YOU’RE POSTING A PHOTO OF YOU IN A BIKINI? YOU’RE NOT READY. I’M COVERING MY EYES!” Or I could take it to mean, “OMG. YOU LOOK SPECTACULAR.” I choose the latter. Another woman wrote, “My son is 14 months and I still won’t allow these pics. Good for you girl!”

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  • lyzl

    I did it too. Bikini pictures on the blog. I did it because I spent so much damn time worrying about what would be appropriate that I realized I was obsessing. How could I raise a daughter to be healthy when I had hang ups? I also hate how there is this rule on who can wear bikinis and who can’t. Eff it. Be comfortable. Be you

  • Guest

    I couldn’t see the picture of the bathing suit – but, more power to ya! I could, however, see a pic where you posted a Prada bag and wallet that your daughter got you…that, I think is kind of tacky.

    • rebecca eckler

      that pic was from like two years ago!

  • Rachel

    I posted bikini pictures taken four months after our son was born earlier this year because 1) we happened to go on vacation to a Japanese resort island (this sounds more extravagant than it actually was since we live in Japan right now, and it was just a 3-hour ferry ride away, and 2) I was tired of people passive-aggressively telling me I would get fat after having a kid. I’m one of those “lucky” people who doesn’t really put on weight, and it just disappeared when our baby was born. That may sound fun to anyone struggling with getting their weight down, but it’s actually pretty terrible when you’re pregnant and having to eat to the point of sickness every meal to try to put enough on.

    Anyway, like someone else said, your privacy settings are probably locking the bikini photos, but I hope they make you feel good regardless. Cute kiddos, too.