Actually, I stole that line from my friend, who when we were discussing the differences between having a daughter and a son, mentioned this memorable line.
I am â€śin loveâ€ť with my son. I donâ€™t just love him; Iâ€™m IN love with him. One of my friends, who has both a son and a daughter, says that having a son is like a love affair. Donâ€™t get me wrong, when my daughter was born, my heart swelled to the point that I thought it would explode with love, as it did when my son was born. But, Iâ€™m realizing, that as he gets older thereâ€™s just somethingâ€¦. different about the kind of love I have for my daughter and with my son.
Itâ€™s very hard to explain, without sounding inappropriate, but Iâ€™ll try to explain to the best of my abilities.
When my son sees me, I can actually see the love in his eyes. He likes to caress my face. When I walk into a room, his grin is huge. So, yes, he is like the best boyfriend I never had. And, also, heâ€™s a flirt. Heâ€™ll look at me and give me a huge smile, and then turn away for a moment, and then turn back batting his eyelashes at me. I fall more in love.
My one friend who has a son and daughter says her son comes up to her every day, places his hands around her face and says, â€śMommy I love you so much!â€ť I asked, doesnâ€™t her daughter do this (mine does) and she answered, â€śAre you kidding me? Never. Sheâ€™s a daddy girlâ€™s so she does that with him.â€ť
When mothers who have sons ask me how my boy is doing,Â I mention, â€śIâ€™m in love with him. Itâ€™s like a love affair!â€ť They completely agree with me. â€śI know,â€ť they say. â€śThatâ€™s exactly right.â€ť
Itâ€™s just a hard feeling to articulate. With my daughter, who obviously I couldnâ€™t love more, I treated her more like a china doll when she was a baby. I would have fun dressing her. I was so careful with her. And now, and I know people hate to hear this, but we are friends (in fact, we are BFFs).
With my son, although I canâ€™t see into the future, I just feel itâ€™s a different sort of love. People always say, â€śOh, sheâ€™s such a daddyâ€™s girl,â€ť as if thatâ€™s a really cute thing, when it comes to fathers and daughters. But when you say, â€śHeâ€™s such a mommyâ€™s boy,â€ť it comes across with somewhat of a negative connotation, as if they are boy-men who canâ€™t do anything on their own.
So, while I love my daughter, I love my son but Iâ€™m also IN love with him. This is a two way street. Itâ€™s not only that when I cuddle him and feed him before bed, I feel this sense of, â€śMy god, this is such a great feeling,â€ť but itâ€™s, like I mentioned, the way he looks at me and reaches out for me, as if Iâ€™m the one and only person he wants.
Also, when my girlfriends come over, he doesnâ€™t give them the grins he gives me. Yes, this all may be a baby thing, because babies (unlike men) are so innocent and always just happy to see your face. They are so easy to please them, so simple and basic. Another reason I may feel â€śin loveâ€ť with my son, is because heâ€™s an extension of his father, who I adore and they look so much alike.
This is not a matter of loving one child more than another, because I donâ€™t; itâ€™s just some sort of feeling I have about my son. The one and only difference between my son being the best boyfriend I never had, is that I do have to change his diapers.