Actually, I stole that line from my friend, who when we were discussing the differences between having a daughter and a son, mentioned this memorable line.
I am ‚Äúin love‚ÄĚ with my son. I don‚Äôt just love him; I‚Äôm IN love with him. One of my friends, who has both a son and a daughter, says that having a son is like a love affair. Don‚Äôt get me wrong, when my daughter was born, my heart swelled to the point that I thought it would explode with love, as it did when my son was born. But, I‚Äôm realizing, that as he gets older there‚Äôs just something‚Ä¶. different about the kind of love I have for my daughter and with my son.
It‚Äôs very hard to explain, without sounding inappropriate, but I‚Äôll try to explain to the best of my abilities.
When my son sees me, I can actually see the love in his eyes. He likes to caress my face. When I walk into a room, his grin is huge. So, yes, he is like the best boyfriend I never had. And, also, he‚Äôs a flirt. He‚Äôll look at me and give me a huge smile, and then turn away for a moment, and then turn back batting his eyelashes at me. I fall more in love.
My one friend who has a son and daughter says her son comes up to her every day, places his hands around her face and says, ‚ÄúMommy I love you so much!‚ÄĚ I asked, doesn‚Äôt her daughter do this (mine does) and she answered, ‚ÄúAre you kidding me? Never. She‚Äôs a daddy girl‚Äôs so she does that with him.‚ÄĚ
When mothers who have sons ask me how my boy is doing,¬† I mention, ‚ÄúI‚Äôm in love with him. It‚Äôs like a love affair!‚ÄĚ They completely agree with me. ‚ÄúI know,‚ÄĚ they say. ‚ÄúThat‚Äôs exactly right.‚ÄĚ
It‚Äôs just a hard feeling to articulate. With my daughter, who obviously I couldn‚Äôt love more, I treated her more like a china doll when she was a baby. I would have fun dressing her. I was so careful with her. And now, and I know people hate to hear this, but we are friends (in fact, we are BFFs).
With my son, although I can‚Äôt see into the future, I just feel it‚Äôs a different sort of love. People always say, ‚ÄúOh, she‚Äôs such a daddy‚Äôs girl,‚ÄĚ as if that‚Äôs a really cute thing, when it comes to fathers and daughters. But when you say, ‚ÄúHe‚Äôs such a mommy‚Äôs boy,‚ÄĚ it comes across with somewhat of a negative connotation, as if they are boy-men who can‚Äôt do anything on their own.
So, while I love my daughter, I love my son but I‚Äôm also IN love with him. This is a two way street. It‚Äôs not only that when I cuddle him and feed him before bed, I feel this sense of, ‚ÄúMy god, this is such a great feeling,‚ÄĚ but it‚Äôs, like I mentioned, the way he looks at me and reaches out for me, as if I‚Äôm the one and only person he wants.
Also, when my girlfriends come over, he doesn‚Äôt give them the grins he gives me. Yes, this all may be a baby thing, because babies (unlike men) are so innocent and always just happy to see your face. They are so easy to please them, so simple and basic. Another reason I may feel ‚Äúin love‚ÄĚ with my son, is because he‚Äôs an extension of his father, who I adore and they look so much alike.
This is not a matter of loving one child more than another, because I don‚Äôt; it‚Äôs just some sort of feeling I have about my son. The one and only difference between my son being the best boyfriend I never had, is that I do have to change his diapers.