• Sun, Dec 9 2012

Suzanne Venker, World’s Most Un-Original Woman, Thinks We Should Call A Truce On ‘The War On Men’

A few weeks ago, Suzanne Venker – writer for Fox News.com – wrote a completely unoriginal and uninspired essay titled, “The War on Men.’ In it, she basically argues that women’s liberation and feminism has driven men from any desire to marry because they are sick of competing with us all of the time. They are sick of us paying bills and making them feel useless. They just want to take care of all of us! Why can’t we all just stop being so hard-headed and independent and be the nice little stay-at-home women we are supposed to be?

I’m paraphrasing a little. Here’s her own explanation:

In a nutshell, women are angry. They’re also defensive, though often unknowingly. That’s because they’ve been raised to think of men as the enemy. Armed with this new attitude, women pushed men off their pedestal (women had their own pedestal, but feminists convinced them otherwise) and climbed up to take what they were taught to believe was rightfully theirs.

Now the men have nowhere to go.

There was a rightful backlash to all of this ridiculous nonsense. So much so, Venker felt the need to print a second article this week – to clarify her stance.

Just because you make your own money doesn’t mean your guy can’t pay the bill. Just because you value independence doesn’t mean you can’t take your husband’s last name. Just because you can do the same job a man can do doesn’t mean you need to let him know it.

Surrendering to your femininity means many things. It means letting your man be the man despite  the fact that you’ve proved you’re his equal. It means recognizing the fact that you may very well want to stay home with your babies – and that that’s normal. It means if you do work outside the home, you don’t use your work to play tit-for-tat in your marriage. It means tapping into that part of yourself that’s genuinely vulnerable and really does need a man – even though the culture says you don’t.

Okay, so we can advance in our fields and be successful, but we just shouldn’t tell our men about our accomplishments. That makes total sense. We wouldn’t want them to think they married a competent human being. That’s not feminine! Should we open some offshore account to hide all this money that we don’t want to offend our men with?

I just love that she is perpetuating the myth of the un-marryable man. This seems to be taking the place of the “man shortage” myth that was popular for so long. It is the theory that divorce rates are up and men are marrying less because women are just too damned independent. In reality, everyone knows that divorce rates are up because women aren’t tethered to their homes and husbands like they were in the good old days that this woman seems to be waxing poetic for.

What’s really hilarious is she is writing all of these articles to promote her new book, ”How to Choose a Husband and Make Peace with Marriage.” I guess it’s okay that she’s outside the home making a living, because she’s making a living teaching women how to be good little wives and rail against feminism – the very vehicle that enabled her to make money spewing this nonsense in the first place.

Oh, the irony.

(photo: Andrea Michele Piacquadio/ Shutterstock.com)

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  • Blueathena623

    So much stupidity, so much little time.
    A. I don’t know any (although I’m sure they exist) women raises to think of men as an enemy, but I know a lot of dislike societal attitudes that favor men. Don’t hate the person, hate the situation.
    B. Some women -gasp- dont like the “pedestal” they had.
    C. Men have no where to go? If that female pedestal was so super, why can’t men take over some of that?
    D. Generally vulnerable and needs a man? Sucks to be gay I suppose.

    I hope she dd the wifely thing and asked her husband for permission to get a job and write a book, and immediately signs over any and all money she gets from the book.

    Here’s the thing, y’all. Women are tired of being the scapegoat of the sexes. Why are family values declining because women choose to work outside the home? Why can’t it be because men aren’t choosing to stay home? Instead of talking about what a women did to get raped, why not focus on men not raping? Why are women at fault for men not feeling like men instead of men not stepping up to the plate and finding their own ways to redefine themselves?

    • K.

      “Women are tired of being the scapegoat of the sexes. Why are family
      values declining because women choose to work outside the home? Why
      can’t it be because men aren’t choosing to stay home? Instead of talking
      about what a women did to get raped, why not focus on men not raping?
      Why are women at fault for men not feeling like men instead of men not
      stepping up to the plate and finding their own ways to redefine
      themselves?”

      You are awesome.

    • http://twitter.com/mariaguido Guerrilla Mom

      Amen.

    • jsterling93

      Exactly! Well said. I also can’t stand the way she writes about what men “want or need”. My husband brags to EVERYONE about my job and my degrees. He never went to college so he though it embarrasses me he tells everyone about my education. When I told him I was starting my doctorate next year he posted on Facebook about how excited he was to see me pursuing my dream. I can tell he means it. He is not threatened by my success instead he is proud of it.

  • Med_stu

    I was talking to my boyfriend about her article, and he was like “What a stupid bitch. I don’t care about you earning more than me, you have an awesome job. I’ll be the stay at home dad. I’d LOVE to be a stay at home dad. Or we can take it in turns to work and look after the kids for a few years each. How cool would that be?” Real men are awesome, and know their value without a woman having to make themselves smaller to boost them up.

    • Diane Aguilar

      That’s exactly it!! Real men are so confident in themselves and their stations in life that they don’t have a single problem with how much their spouses/significant others achieve, earn, or do in life. These men are, to me, the most macho, least emasculated men around. I also tend to think the weakest, flimsiest, most gutless boy-men are the ones who feel uncomfortable about being around women who are high income earners, holders of advanced degrees, and/or adventure-seekers who’ve lived life to the fullest.

      My dad was very much a product of the ’50s and a really tough, gruff, macho man. When you think of him, think of John Wayne in one of his Westerns or Clint Eastwood as Dirty Harry. My mom never stopped working outside the home, took care of the family’s finances, and ordered the family around, and my dad did the lion’s share of the cooking and quite a bit of cleaning (as well as being a blue collar worker). He never had a problem with my mom’s doing what she did, nor did he despair when I talked more about my future career goals than anything concerning marriage and family. He was a real man with real brawn behind his well-earned muscles and I miss the hell out of him. He would never stand for weak-willed, lily livered boy-men who would be threatened by the kind of females my mom and I were/are and I will always love that about him.

    • http://www.facebook.com/matt.wayne.9887 Matt Wayne

      Being a stay at home dad is probably one of the worst and most weakest “jobs” I can think of off the top of my head. Sure, being a good dad is a job in and of itself but a man is supposed to provide for his family and make sure his family is taken care of. That’s the biological truth and a real man would know that but a wannabe man who lives with his girlfriend(s) and doesn’t make sure he is taking care of his business will of course side with the girlfriend on this if she is against the topic were discussing. Sorry to say but modern day feminism is unneeded and has done more damage to families, men and women than most of you will ever know.

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