Gifts for divorce / ex-partners isn’t really an aisle Hallmark has perfected yet, even for occasions like Christmas or Hanukkah. It’s somewhat understandable given that the holidays can be complex business when it comes to exes. Not only are you probably coordinating where your kid will spend which days with which side of the family, but you’re probably also fielding phone calls from your ex mother-in-law asking if they can get just a little more time. All this back and forth and emailing and texting can leave little time for who may be the last person on your shopping list — oh yes, that person you had a kid with.
I respect former couples who squash the gift-gifting compulsion with each other come this time of year. The argument can be made that you’ve already given him or her the biggest gift you can gave anyone anyway. (No, not a “starter marriage,” but the child for those of you still guessing.)
Despite that so many of us now live in blended families, there still isn’t much frame of reference for how to go about this ex gifting. Depending on how long you were together and what the circumstances for your split were, nobody can really determine that etiquette for you. Only you know what might piss off your ex’s new partner or what will be deemed a little on the sparse side.
But no matter how high or low you choose to go on that price tag, remember a break from nagging about being late to drop-off time can also totally count as a gift.