I was shocked to find out my daughter is not an angel. I know. I know. Youâ€™re probably thinking, â€śOf course sheâ€™s not perfect! What kind of mother are you to think that youâ€™re daughter is perfect?â€ť Well, I knew she wasnâ€™t perfect, but I always thought she was the kindest, sweetest girl ever and, well, yes, aside from her morning breath, I did think she was pretty damn near perfect. I thought she was a good girl, meaning she never argues with me, she always listens to me, she did well in school, and we have never fought.
When she knows Iâ€™m not happy with her, she writes me these cute â€śIâ€™m sorry mommy. I love you soooo much and Iâ€™ll never do it again!â€ť notes. However, my fiancĂ© has been telling me, for at least a year now, that my daughter is different when Iâ€™m not around. He wonâ€™t or canâ€™t explain exactly how, but apparently sheâ€™s a lot more confident and has a lot more attitude. I shrugged this off, thinking, â€śNot my girl. Sheâ€™s so sweet!â€ť Perhaps it was my fiancĂ© who was pressing my darling daughterâ€™s buttons. But then a rash of things happened that made me think, â€śHuh, maybe my daughter DOES act differently when Iâ€™m not around.â€ť
First, I got a call from a mother saying that her daughter complained to her that MY daughter is always so critical of her. I was like, â€śHuh? My daughter is the sweetest person in the world! Sheâ€™s not critical of people.â€ť I didnâ€™t say this, but I was kind of shocked when I heard the rest of the story. Apparently, my daughter told this girl that she should stop doodling while another girl was doing a presentation in front of the class. My daughter said to this girl, â€śHow would you like it if someone was doodling while you were doing your presentation?â€ť
I almost was going to say to this mother, â€śWell, actually, my daughter HAS a point.â€ť But I was more interested in the fact that my daughter spoke up to this girl. Then this mother also told me that my daughter said to her daughter, â€śThis is the way I am. You have to like me just the way I am.â€ť
Honestly, when I heard that, I wanted to laugh. Again, I thought my daughter had a point. But, also, I have NEVER heard those words out of my daughterâ€™s mouth, so Iâ€™m not sure where she got them from.