Jada Pinkett Smith is usually overshadowed by her husband Will Smith‘s gigantic
ego trailer, and it’s lame because I don’t think a lot of us realize how truly cool this celebrity mom is! I had no idea how cool she is until I read about her defending her popstar daughter Willow in the NY Daily News. Willow Smith has received a lot of flack for her hair styles, and her mom took to Facebook to defend her daughter:
“The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair, first the LET must be challenged,” Pinkett Smith wrote on Facebook. “This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination.”
“I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain.
“It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires,”
You guys, I hate to admit this, but I totally micromanage my daughter’s hair, and her clothes, and her accessories and all of her little appearance and even though I consider myself a mom who is raising an empowered, strong, opinionated little girl, reading what Pinkett Smith says above totally makes me think I need to chill the eff out on my child. It’s just hair, it’s just clothing, it’s just letting her wear every single piece of jewelry she owns all at one time. And that’s not going to change the essence of who she is, which is a sweet, loving, smart little girl who deserves to have full ownership of her own little body.
And it’s not just Jada who feel this way, her husband Will said in a Parade magazine article in May that:
The star said he and his wife decided to allow Willow to cut her hair to show her “how to have command of her body.”
“If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world”
I love these parents, and I’m totally going to take a lesson from them the next time my own daughter wants to express her individuality with her appearance. As long as she is dressed weather-appropriate and not wearing anything against school rules or that could hurt her in any way (I still won’t be saying yes to buying her kiddie high heels) than I’m going to let her go for it. Because even though I gave birth to it and even though I feel like she is such a big part of me, it’s time I started letting her take ownership of her own little body and her own little self. If I can’t teach her this, I can’t expect her to be able to do the same out in this great big world.