• Tue, Nov 27 2012

I’m That Mom Who Would Buy A $145 J Crew Baby Sweater

J Crew launched their infant line a few months ago and people everywhere are freaking out because parents can purchase $145 sweaters and $228 baby blankets for their spawn. And If I had babies, I would be one of those parents buying these items, because they are freakin’ adorable! Yes, they are a bit expensive but a lot of nice things in life usually are. I don’t view items like this as being everyday wear, and with the right care these are the types of things you buy knowing that they would become heirlooms that you would pass on to your children’s children, when they have children. Otherwise known as, your future grandchildren.

When you blow close to two hundred dollars on a baby sweater, coupon and discount code up first. J Crew is notorious for running twenty-five percent off sales during the holidays. You are still getting the same fancy sweater, just at a discount. The most important thing to do first is buy a piles of onesies, preferably long sleeved. You should also make sure the diapers you use don’t leak. I would suggest buying a sweater like this in a size or two bigger than what your baby wears, because babies look adorable in oversized sweaters and if your baby can “grow into” an item, the more longevity it will have. Don’t plop your baby in a highchair wearing something like this in front of a bowl of mashed bananas. Items like this are obviously not dinner-wear. Always carry baby wipes with you, they are great for blotting up spills and gentle enough so they won’t trash cashmere. And when your baby has outgrown the items? Reuse and recycle that puppy, either to a younger sibling or to a friend with a baby who takes care of items as well as you do.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to splurge on expensive baby clothes on occasion, and I think all parents have done this. When my middle-child was born my husband purchased a ridiculous (ridiculously cute) baby ensemble for him that included a pair of twenty-eight dollar teensy tiny mouse sized socks. Twenty-eight dollars. For socks. You best believe they were always hand laundered and then carefully placed in a tissue-lined box for future generations. A cashmere sweater does’t have the risk of going out of style, unless by the time you have grandchildren we are all wearing spacesuits, but even under a spacesuit a baby will need to keep warm.

Everything is so cheap (and cheaply made) these days. All parents like discounts and there is nothing wrong with babies wearing five dollar sweaters, as long as you realize it will probably fade and unravel as soon as it is laundered. Although I think babies look the cutest when they are wearing leggings and t-shirts, I don’t think anything is wrong with splurging a bit if a parent falls madly in love with something. I would rather spend a bit more and have less items, well-made things that can withhold a baby crawling and spitting up on them, than a ton of cheap discount store items they will wear once and end up in the rag bin. And for those of you still freaking out about the hefty price tag? Suggest someone else buy it. Grandparents can be good for something other than criticizing your every parenting move.

(photo: J Crew)

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  • msenesac

    Before having a baby, I thought that I would want to dress my kid in nice clothes too. Your opinion will probably/possibly change once/if you have a child. Trying to clean spit up off of cashmere would be frustrating/impossible :) Especially if you had to do it every 5 minutes.

    • Michelle

      Eve has like 3-4 kids and even gave an example of her husband buying an expensive outfit soooo no I don’t think her opinion would change

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      AWWWW! Thank you for noticing me, haha. But yeah, wiping up baby droll can be tricky, I just don’t think we should feel awful if sometimes we want a few nice things <3

  • Anna

    Never in a million years. And I can afford it. If anyone in my house is getting fancy stuff it’s me because I don’t shit my pants. ;)

    • http://www.facebook.com/chrissiwit Chrissi Witkowski

      LOL fantastic response Anna

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      everyone here at Mommyish is SO PROUD of you for this too! :)

    • chickadee

      Love you. Yeah, the adults get the good stuff. Did I give the children Lindt? Hell, no. They got Hershey’s. I get cashmere, they get cotton. Because they are BABIES and they think poop and cardboard boxes are toys.

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      hahahaahaha! That Hershey’s comment is so true. I once told my kids that Godiva contained huge amounts of alcohol so it is for adults only :(

    • JulesSF

      $145 sweater seems excessive, especially if they’re under 2. Babies grow out of clothes in a matter of weeks, so who cares about the quality? Now I know why my parents made me shop at Sears and JC Penny’s all the time. It’s Target all the way for my kiddo. (But if anyone wants to give my kiddo stuff from Janie and Jack or Ralph Lauren, I’ll take it.)

  • http://www.facebook.com/adrianne.braun Adrianne Braun

    I agree with the author. My mother kept amazing, heirloom clothing of mine *and hers* that was passed down to my daughter: Feltman Brothers dresses, vintage fur-trimmed booties, a velvet Rothschild coat & hat, to name a few. I like to acquire nice, well-made clothing for my child, and that often comes with a price tag. I use coupons, shop sales, eBay, and thrift to find pieces that are unique and will hold their value. And when she is finished “gently using” her wardrobe (she can eat the chocolate sundae or roll in the dirt in something white that I can bleach), I resell it on eBay or to consignment for up to 90% of what I paid for it. Nicer clothing has a longer wear life, period. The nation’s landfills are already overflowing with Faded Glory and Circo rags!!

  • MommyK

    J Crew is a bit out of my price range most of the time, so my “nice” baby clothes are from Baby Gap and Mexx (I know, not the same thing). But I watch for sales and make sure to always have a few nice things on the go from there. He gets lots of compliments on his nice Gap fall jacket especially. I definitely agree that I’d rather have fewer items but have some that I really love and paid a bit more for.

  • Shannon Linden

    I would buy this as a gift for a friend’s baby – because I know most of my friends wouldn’t buy it for themselves. That’s what “aunts” do! We buy stupidly expensive stuff because we only have to dress the baby once or twice – not every day!

    • anonymous

      That is an INSANE amount of money to spend on a friend’s child, sorry.

  • LiteBrite

    I agree nicer clothing is more durable. My mom is constantly buying my kid stuff from Gymboree, and while I think it’s bloody expensive, it does wear really well. The problem I have is that one dribble of berry juice, and poof! The item is done for.

    • http://profile.yahoo.com/L3O3XSW4OWFEVH2ULAYRCHEOKA Kouski Kirk

      I love Gymboree! They don’t have enough of a selection though.

  • CW

    Meanwhile there are children whose parents can’t even afford to buy them a basic sweater. How about you buy a decent-quality but still reasonably priced one and then donate the money you saved to a charity helping out less privileged children…

  • http://profile.yahoo.com/L3O3XSW4OWFEVH2ULAYRCHEOKA Kouski Kirk

    If you want to buy your child a 145 dollar J Crew sweater find it on eBay for 20 or less. I wear well-known pricy name brand clothes and look like I’m rolling in dough but really it’s
    called eBay.

  • bumbler

    From my perspective, a kid is just as “worthy” as an adult to have nice things. I wouldn’t want myself to be taken care of by the cheapest means possible, so I don’t cheap out on my kids.

    • CW

      There’s a lot of middle ground between “cheap” and “designer”. A decent-quality sweater from Hanna Andersson would run about $38 on sale and would last just as long as that obscenely priced J. Crew one. Frankly, when there is still double-digit unemployment in many areas, I think it the height of tackiness to flaunt one’s conspicuous consumption like the author.

    • lala

      J. Crew is not designer. Baby Dior is designer. I had baby Dior, and my mom saved it, and if I ever have a daughter she will have vintage baby Dior. Stop being so high and mighty, it’s really obnoxious.

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      Even after the whole Galliano thing? Ugh. hate that guy.

    • CW

      I wouldn’t want to have to explain to Jesus why I chose to blow obscene amounts of money on clothing with the “right” label when so many of His children are suffering. After all, “it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle, than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”

    • Justme

      “J. Crew is not designer. Baby Dior is designer. I had baby Dior.”

      “Stop being so high and mighty, it’s really obnoxious.”

      Pot…….meet kettle.

    • Lawcat

      You would be able to pick out a J Crew sweater on someone so as to think they are flaunting conspicuous consumption? I don’t think their sweater labeling is that prominent.

      If everyone were shopping at Sears and Macys so as not to offend anyone, the unemployment rate would be substantially higher.

      Unless you recognize and follow the designer, I don’t see how anyone would be able to pick it out of a crowd. Most Americans would look at my Launer purse and wouldn’t be able to tell if I picked it up in the UK or at Sears.

      Simply purchasing an item is not flaunting. Going on and on about the purchase and how much you spent, especially if the other person cannot afford it? Sure, that’s incredibly tacky. However, superiorly flaunting frugality is just as bad as flaunting excess. I volunteer in the community, I provide pro bono assistance to low income families so that they can keep their homes, I tithe to my church, and if I want to purchase a designer handbag during the year, I’m pretty sure that’s not going to keep me out of Heaven. Although acting high and mighty may.

    • http://www.xojane.com/author/eve Eve Vawter

      I <3 you

    • Katie

      Right, that’s the thing, no one’s going to know it’s ridiculously expensive unless you tell them. So if you can afford it, and that’s how you want to spend your money, go for it.
      If you’re the jerkface who flaunts the price of objects in front of people who you know are having hard times, then that’s a different issue. But that has nothing to do with whether you should dress your baby in designer duds.

    • Anna

      I actually do think I’m worthy of more expensive clothing. I don’t outgrow it in five minutes.

      I don’t buy my kids crap either. You can get very good quality clothing that won’t run in the hundreds of dollars. There is definitely a middle ground.

  • Asha

    I buy very expensive clothes for my daughter and have since she was a baby. She’s six now. There have been times she’s ruined expensive clothes with markers, holes, etc but that’s my fault, not hers. She’s just being a kid and I never get sick or upset over it. I buy her expensive clothing because I’m probably filling a void I have when I was growing up, we couldn’t afford the nice clothes and I LOVED clothes, even at a very young age. I do have a system where I buy cheaper clothes which is in her school/play rotation. I buy expensive clothing for when we go to dinner, out on the town, holidays, etc.

  • Carmen

    While I do think there’s nothing wrong with buying a baby a few special and pricey things, I think that extra money -for those who can spare it- would be better spent on an item from a boutique instead of a giant corporation. Independent sellers have such beautiful, unique things that are more likely to be made in the US, France or Italy (sorry, but those last two are where true quality and workmanship comes from) and more importantly it supports local businesses and real people, not CEOs.
    I am surprised that j crew charges that much because as someone above said, it’s not designer. Why then is it so expensive? Although I am far from rich, my one luxury is Hermes scarves. Once in a very long while I buy one, and the nealy 300 euros seems worth it because it is literally a work of art, hand dyed with literally hundreds of shades and made in France. If I have a child, I would love to buy her a few truly original handmade items, but I wouldn’t even contemplate spending that kind of money on baby J crew. It’s like when I see a Kate spade bag for 800$ and it’s made in china. I think, “who do you think you are?”

    • canaduck

      Agreed. J Crew uses sweatshops and craps on the environment. If I really wanted to buy something so obscenely expensive I’d make sure I was supporting the right people.

  • Carolina

    @EveVawter:disqus – WOW I h0pe you think twice to get a sweter like that next time you see a picture like this one – you are ugly !

  • Robinn

    The end sentence says it all: Grandparents can do more than criticize your every move, so let them buy it!….This is everything that says spoiled unappreciated brat! Keep up with raising your kids to have great morals and ethics!

  • Taryn

    What an idiot. Instead of teaching them early the worth of intangible qualities; like say, compassion, self sacrifice, or inner worth, you’ll start them early down the road of self indulgence and conspicuous consumerism. And another future brat will be among as soon as that kid grows up. If you have money to waste on a stupid sweater, how about teaching your kid about compassion by telling them about how many children in this world are sick, orphaned, and hungry, then donating that money to something like UNICEF or Amnesty International. No, they won’t have a “pretty” sweater, but they’ll have moral fiber. God help us when parents listen to people who justify a 145$ sweater for a baby or child.

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  • anonymous

    I’ve never really understood what’s so fantastic about J.Crew. Their stuff is well made, but nothing particularly special. The only things I’ve ever bought from J.Crew have been purchased at thrift stores and yard sales, always in virtually brand new condition. I’ve got to qualms about those who want to waste ridiculous amounts of money on their baby…just means I’ll be buying your stuff for 25 cents after your kid’s worn it once or twice and you’re ready for another shopping spree, lol. I’ve got no problem with that at all. ;)