Don't set her up with one of your friends during the dinnerJust don't. If you're also extending an invitation to a guy or girl she might take a liking to during the course of the meal, keep that tidbit to yourself. No awkward first date chaperoning and conversation prodding about how both of you like horseback riding. (photo: Kzenon/ Shutterstock)
Don't ask her if she's been seeing anyone latelyDid you just wince? Because I did. Again, if she offers up a dating story, you're free to surmise and ask questions. But don't expect her to walk in the door and offer up a detailed timeline of her romantic history. Even if she has a few gentleman or lady-callers, she might not be ready to rehash every moment with you just yet. (photo: kostrez/ Shutterstock)
No invitations to practice with kidsThis is annoying for several reasons. Assuming that she even wants kids, helping your brats wash their hands doesn't really count as "practicing." It's just an opportunity to look extremely awkward in front of people you only see twice a year and maybe get vomit on your new dress from the baby. Plus, there's always the possibility that the kids will resist and then you'll have that whining to deal with. If she volunteers, wish her god's speed. Otherwise ask your partner or another family member to mind the kids' table. (photo: Yuri Arcurs/ Shutterstock)
Don't ask her if she ever wants kidsIf she makes this declaration, have fun. Otherwise, you're just putting her on the spot about a very serious and extremely personal decision that she may not have even figured out yet. Don't be that person. Let another member of your family embarrass themselves with this one. (photo: glayan/ Shutterstock)
Omit biological clockYou'll avoid a lot of clumsy talking avenues if you just ban this word for the evening. Do yourself a favor with this quick short cut. Just toss this one out with the turkey guts. (photo: Alexander Tihonov/ Shutterstock)
Don't ask if she plans on getting married/partneredIf there's one thing you don't want at your Thanksgiving, besides politics, it's most likely a philosophical breakdown of marriage. Aside from the more and very loaded suggestion that she should think about settling down, who knows what other ideologies you may be stepping on. She may not even believe in marriage, or choose to be focusing on other aspects of her life. If she's not asking you why you decided to put a ring on it, don't ask her why she hasn't. (photo: Africa Studio/ Shutterstock)
Don't assume that she doesn't want kids at allBeing respectful also includes not assuming too much, so prefacing every story about report cards or potty training with "but this doesn't apply to you," is just as easily a smack in the face. Just because kids aren't her priority at this holiday doesn't mean they won't be by the next. Everyone's timeline is different. (photo: Sarycheva Olesia/ Shutterstock)
No Sex and the City references, pleaseNewsflash but SATC is old. Like way old. Like 10 years ago. As in too old to be giving little winks and nods about her living the Carrie Bradshaw life in the Big Apple. Even if she is getting hammered every weekend and buying expensive shoes with all her disposable income, find a more up to date cultural reference to joke about. HBO's Girls? Fair. Now you're catching on. (photo: Featureflash / Shutterstock.com)
Prepare to let her talk office politics -- or anything else non-kid relatedWe all have personal anecdotes and the ones she has will probably be nothing like yours. Goodness knows enough people had nodded as you've gone on and on about diaper rash, and so now it's your turn. If she wants to talk office politics, water cooler drama, and other hobbies/interests, let it go. You'll have your turn once the pumpkin pie is served so just smile and oblige. (photo: Africa Studio/ Shutterstock)
If you’re opening your home to single and childless relatives and friends this Thanksgiving, there a few tips you should probably keep close to that defrosting turkey. Despite the growing visibility of childless by choice or child-free individuals, the holidays still can be an irksome time for those of us who don’t have little ones. Primarily because walking into a room full of mothers and fathers generally ignites a countdown until you’ll be questioned as to why you are not yet a mother or a father. For some us, it’s no doubt just a matter of time until we’ll be sitting around talking breastfeeding tips with the rest of you. For others, kids are simply not on the agenda –ever.
Either way, whether you’re inviting your kid sister, a childless aunt, or some friendly neighbors, it tends to be the ladies who carry the brunt of this interrogation. So while you’re awaiting that ice cream to soften or just asking them to carry some dishes to into the dining room, be sure to keep these suggestions in mind.