â€śHappy Thanksgiving!â€ť My mom trilled as I stumbled down the stairs. Thanksgiving was one day away. â€śGlad to see you are up!â€ť
Of course I was up. She was blasting music from her sewing room at five in the morning. The music was what can best be described as Gregorian monks chant Christmas. I needed coffee.
I probably would have been awake despite the music. My parentsâ€™ new house was located a comfortable 10 miles from an active railroad and my husband and I had been given the room with the window facing the train.
â€śYou can barely hear it,â€ť my mom insisted.
My brother, who gave up the room for us, rolled his eyes.Â Sheâ€™d also given us the room with two twin beds. Despite that we had been married for two years, she insisted weâ€™d be more comfortable.
The room smelled like 16-year-old boy: a mixture of sweat, testosterone, Axe body spray and funk. My mother swore she gave us clean sheets, but the pet odor of boy assaulted our senses and made it hard to sleep.Â Between all of that and the monk music, I could feel the throb of a migraine start behind my right eye. I had been home less than 24 hours.
My family is the crazy one. There are eight kids, one miniature dachshund and a lot of shouting. My parents tried to raise us Evangelical and godly, but we all had other plans. The result is that weâ€™re like the Duggars except meaner and more likely to cuss you out.
My husband is the second oldest of four. He has three brothers and a sister, which is a cocktail for crazy, but not if youâ€™re Midwestern. Besides the one time his sister hit his brother with the baton when they were in kindergarten, the Lenz family interactions are devoid of the violence and angst that permeates my familyâ€™s every encounter.
I didnâ€™t even let Dave come to visit my parents until we were engaged. He came for four days before Christmas, six months before we were married. That was the year that my little brother tried to flush the dog, my mom asked me to call the cops on the drug dealer neighbors. That same trip, while watching a movie, my mom had muted the sound during a risquĂ© scene only to have the orgasmic oohs and ahhs spelled out on the closed captions. She flung her body in front of the television screaming, â€śLook away!â€ť
This time around, due to my familyâ€™s predilection for moving, this was Daveâ€™s first extended stay with my parents over the holidays. They werenâ€™t cutting him any breaks. When we arrived at nine p.m. the night before, weâ€™d been greeted with the dog peeing on my shoe and my sister announcing that the turkey was in the jacuzzi because â€śsomeone” — here she cast a pointed glance at my mom — “someone was giving up on proper parenting and forgot to set it out to thaw.â€ť