Who really knows what goes on in the secret lives of movie stars? We speculate. We read about the drama. We take sides. I know nothing about the relationship between Halle Berry and the father of her child, Gabriel Aubry. All I know is what I see in the tabloids – they both seem like involved, loving parents.
Which is why I am glad that Berry lost the fight to move her daughter to France. Yesterday, a judge ruled that her daughter will stay in the U.S. The couple has been involved in a custody battle for months. Berry planned on moving herself and her daughter, Nahla, to Paris to live with her actor fiance Olivier Martinez.
According to TMZ, “Halle argued the L.A. paparazzi scene made life in California too dangerous for her and her daughter.” She wanted to move Nahla away from the very public celebrity fishbowl that is Los Angeles. From the Daily Mail:
Halle spoke out about the situation in a recent interview, where she claimed the move would be in Nahla’s best interests. ‘It’s the appeal of privacy and a greater sense of safety for Nahla,’ she told InStyle magazine.
‘Because we are followed all the time, she is starting to feel like she is somehow special, and of course she is, but I want her to understand that she’s special because of who she is, not because she was born into this celebrity blender.’
Those arguments are understandable and make a lot of sense. But as far as I’m concerned – the decision was already made. She is a public figure. She birthed a daughter into that life. While Berry has every right to desire more privacy for her child, I don’t think she has the right to sacrifice her child’s relationship with her father to do so. That’s not fair.
When you make another human with someone – you are tied to that person forever – whether you like it or not. Relationships fizzle all of the time. But children get one set of birth parents, and they are entitled to grow up with both of them around. If the child’s relationship with both parents is healthy, I don’t think celebrity or money should give anyone an advantage in a custody battle.
Sorry Halle. Looks like you’ll have to transplant that gorgeous Frenchman to Los Angeles.