10 Finicky Fashion Rules Of A Pre-Schooler

child fashionIt’s only a few months into the school year, but I’ve learned something incredibly important about my daughter. I’m going to be arguing with her about clothing for the rest of my life. And I’m probably always going to lose.

There was a naive and innocent time when I thought that I could control her wardrobe. Then, I started to feel like at least I could predict the patterns, or buy items that met her generally criteria that I still found adorable. For a while, it was all dresses, all the time. That was a little difficult during the winter, but at least I knew what to expect.

This year, however, my daughter isn’t in the small little twice-a-week pre-school. She’s in week-long pre-kindergarten. She has a bigger class, a bigger school. And apparently, she has even more fashion rules to throw my way. I finally had to give up and take her shopping with me for school clothes, not just because she’s so tall and thin that it’s hard to know what will fit. I also wanted to be able to say, “You picked it out,” when she told me that she wasn’t going to wear something ever again.

Even after a shopping trip that involved my four-year-old hand-selecting every piece of her new wardrobe, we’re still running into difficulty. Here are the latest fashion rules from my little stylist. At this point, I’m just standing back and letting my little one call all of the shots.

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    • LaLa

      Yes! My 4 year old refuses to wear actual pants. The other day I tried to make her wear jeans and it was like she didn’t even have legs. All I heard all day was,”I can’t move!!” I went and bought a bunch of jeggings. That’s as close to real pants as we’re gonna get.

      • C.J.

        I have one like that. I was starting to think she whould never wear anything but stretchy pants anf jogging suits. She wouldn’t wear any pants that had “belly buttons”. That’s what she called the buttons and snaps. Finally this year (she’s 7) she decided jeans are fashionable.

    • LiteBrite

      I thought that by having a boy I would be exempt from the picky fashion choices and would be able to just pick out whatever and he’d wear it. I was wrong. Today he insisted on wearing his long underwear. I tried to explain that they were **underwear**, you know, for **under your clothes**, but he wasn’t having that. (Thankfully he’s home today and not in school.) He also has a fondness for mismatched clothes. If I tell him that I’d like to put a different shirt on, one that actually matches his pants, he digs in his heels and insists he is wearing THAT OUTFIT.

      My favorite though was when he went with me to the train station…with his clothes on backwards. I tried getting him to put his clothes on the right way, but he got mad and said “They’re fine MOMMY.” DH didn’t seem to concerned, so I decided to let it go.

      I guess most of the time I should just be grateful he’s wearing pants.

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    • Sarah

      I don’t have any kids yet since I’m only 21 (thank god!), so I know I’m going to get backlash for any “opinion” that comes from a naive “kid”.

      Anyway..
      I’m pretty damn sure that I didn’t throw fits when my mother chose the clothes that I’d wear to pre-school that day. Kids nowadays would think I was wearing “ultra-conservative” clothes in comparison with what they wear now.
      Was I always happy with what my mother made me wear at the AGE of FOUR or FIVE?… No, I probably wasn’t. If I had thrown a fit, I would have had a long lecture coming my way along with a healthy dose of time-out for being such a brat.
      My neighbors who have a daughter about who is about 10 years old, have been letting their daughter choose her “clothes” since she was in pre-school. It started out harmless, but continued into shoes with heels, hoops for earings, make-up by 2nd or 3rd grade. It’s a vicious downhill battle that you’ll never win once you let in begin.

      My neighbor’s daughter is now almost in middle school and she’s having problems in school. Why?… because she’s more concentrated on what’s NOT important, like clothes or fashion. She’s not going to wake up one day and suddenly mature and start thinking school is actually more important, she’ll continue down this “fashion path” until she hits the real world. The real world for a huge portion of 18-22 year olds nowadays is living at home with their parents because they never “grew up” and figured out life IS serious and not just a cake walk (or a catwalk).

      Coming from a student who is currently in college, I can say with 98% certainty that kids who were taught not to be brats and pushed in the CORRECT direction and shown what is more important in life (school or socializing?) end up MUCH MORE successful and are actually studying the more difficult and practical majors (i.e…. science, technology, math..etc).

      Knowing that whatever I say as a 21 year old will go in one of your ears and out the other, I’ll say it anyway.
      Grow up, become a responsible parent and do what’s best for your child in the long run. Life has boundaries and people don’t always get what they want. It’s better the grow up knowing this very, very important life lesson than figure it out when they’re laying on your couch at age 24 with eyebrow piercings and tattoos (because they like that fashion, of course).

      • LiteBrite

        I’m not going to dismiss your opinion, but I will say that it sometimes boils down to choosing your battles when it comes to kids’ outfits. I’m not going to send my kid in 10-degree weather with just long underwear on and sandals no matter how much he insists, but if he wants to wear his clothes backward to the train station or his Spiderman costume to the bank? Whatever. The first situation is about his safety, the second one is about embarrassment on my part.