I also think the earlier (not at four or five) but at eight or nine, is a good time to get a television in a childâ€™s room. My parents never let me eat McDonalds when I was a child. So, as soon as I moved out, I was eating McDonalds at least three times a week. To actually give my daughter a television in her room BEFORE she starts begging for one, or feels like sheâ€™s missing out on something, means that it will just become a normal thing, something she isnâ€™t craving or begging for.
This does work on my daughter.
I always had candies and chocolates out since she was little. Because of that, she doesnâ€™t think chocolate is a big deal, so donâ€™t even try and bribe her with that because she doesnâ€™t give a damn about chocolate. I never used candy as a bribe, just like I wonâ€™t use television as a bribe. (Aside from getting her INTO bed.)
Of course, I will have to see how this plays out. Who knows? Maybe she will sneak and turn on the television late at night. But I know my daughter and I just donâ€™t think thatâ€™s going to happen. While sheâ€™s excited about having a television in her room, she isnâ€™t THAT excited. She doesnâ€™t really talk about it at all.
My daughter, too, is the type of person who needs some down time alone. She doesnâ€™t need to be around me all the time. So if she chooses to go to her room to watch a little television after a long day of school and then dance lessons, so be it. I didnâ€™t make the whole â€śYouâ€™re-getting-a-television-in-your-bedroomâ€ť a big deal. I just did it, without any conversation with her about it before it happened. She just came home from school and it was there.
There have been no discussions about â€śIf you donâ€™t keep up with your school work then the television is gone!â€ť I think sheâ€™s smart enough to know this without me having to say so.
I hope she enjoys having a television in her room. I know I will if I never have to hear the theme song to A.N.T. Farm again. Itâ€™s a win-win situation if you ask me.