• Mon, Jun 18 2012

Call The Mommy Police, Hilary Duff Had A Cigarette

Hilary DuffOh my Heavens, alert the Mommy Patrol. Let’s get our shaming in gear because we have a situation on our hands. Hilary Duff, who gave birth to her son Luca back in March, was recently caught smoking a cigarette. The horror, right?

Was she smoking in the car with her bay in the backseat? No, though I would be pretty outraged about that. Was she lighting up at the park while pushing her little one in an infant swing? No, but parents do that and it’s pretty awful. Was she blowing smoke rings into her precious baby’s face? Nope, none of that either.

Actually, Hilary Duff wasn’t smoking anywhere near her baby. Or any other baby. She was caught smoking after a night out with her husband, leaving Rock N Reilly’s Irish Pub in LA. So I guess I’m confused about what all this mommy-shaming horror is about.

The whole world is aware that smoking is dangerous. We know the dangers of second-hand smoke. That’s why people get justifiably angry when someone is smoking around children. But a new mom having a cigarette after a rare night out with her husband? I’m sorry but I just don’t see what the call to arms is about.

It’s possible that Duff went home, pumped-and-dumped and took a nice long shower after that cigarette. She certainly wouldn’t be the first. I’ve known quite a few young moms who take the opportunity to live it up a little on their first could night out after pregnancy and mommyhood. They have a nice time with their spouse. They maybe have a cocktail or smoke a cigarette. And then they go back home to their adorable little ones and continue to be wonderful moms.

Moms are allowed to have a night out. And I really don’t think that we need to shame a mother simply because she has a cigarette or a drink when she’s having a night away from her child. We shame moms enough for all the choices they make that directly impact their children. As long as they aren’t breaking the law or endangering anyone, can’t we leave their “Mommy’s Night Out” activities alone?

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  • Shawna

    As Hilary just posted on twitter

    ‏@HilaryDuff
    Yikes me holding a cigarette for my friend might have been a bad idea! pretty bummed about the photo.. Sorry guys, looks worst than it is!

    Unfortunate that this was posted without any proof what so ever that she was doing anything, this post should be removed. Disapointed in how fast people can be to judge without better knowledge,

    • http://www.facebook.com/lindsaychartman Lindsay Cross

      Shawna – Thanks so much for bringing Hilary’s tweet to our attention. Obviously that changes the situation quite a bit.

      But I think the point of the post is still valid. There were a whole lot of people who started condemning Duff the minute that picture hit the internet. I don’t think any mom deserves instant shaming for possibly having a cigarette on a night away away from her child.

    • Ipsedixit

      Then maybe changing the headline or any reference to “caught smoking” would be appropriate? Or an editors note at the top or bottom.

  • Another Steph

    I gave up smoking when I fell pregnant and I don’t miss them 99% of the time but I can’t have a drink without my body screaming for nicotine. I try not to drink too much for that reason, but on my occasional nights out I do smoke and I don’t feel an ounce of guilt about it. I will never smoke, or let anyone smoke, around my child, and I don’t ever want him to see me with one because I don’t want him to think it’s okay because mummy does it, but when he’s with grandma overnight and I know that I’ll have showered and changed before I see him I think, “BFD.”

  • Amy

    Actually yeah they should… Smoking is horrible! And I LOVE Hilary and saw that tweet and can’t believe you said “was caught smoking” cause she obviously wasn’t caught smoking. Anyways, smoking is never okay!!! Don’t you know what’s in cigarettes?

  • Justin

    “We know the dangers of second-hand smoke.”

    If all you know is the propaganda that’s been fed to the public, then you don’t know anything.

    Amy: “Don’t you know what’s in cigarettes?”

    Amy, do tell us what’s in cigarettes.

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