• Wed, Jun 6 2012

Miley Cyrus Is 19 And Engaged – What Does Billy Ray Say?

UPDATE: Check out Billy Ray’s reaction here!

It’s official. Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth are that couple you knew in high school. You know, the ones who started dating sophomore year and were seriously in love. They got engaged shortly after graduation and never had another real relationship. Some of those couples end up like my parents – married over 25 years and still just in love as the day they met. Others, well we know what happens there.

With their May 31st engagement, Miley and Liam just became that couple. And honestly, I hope they find the former. I hope they end up like my parents, taking romantic vacations for the two of them every year and genuinely enjoying each other’s company.

But I think we all have to admit that relationships these days are a little different than they were when my parents were dating in high school. Most couples are waiting longer, and experiencing more on their own, before they decide to settle down with a partner for the rest of their lives. Those graduation engagements are getting few and far between.

Is it different for child celebrities who have already matured in many ways by working in the entertainment industry? At 19, Miley already owns property and has her own career. She’s met a lot of the big milestones that her peers are still just dreaming of. Her 22-year-old fiance, Liam Hemsworth, hasn’t had quite the experience that his bride-to-be has, but he’s still established.

When I first read the news, I tried to imagine my own reaction if my daughter told me that she was getting married at 19. Sure, she’s a legal adult now, but no one ever starts thinking of their child as an adult until their over the age of 30, right? Even then, it’s touch and go. What must Billy Ray be thinking about his babygirl getting ready to walk down the aisle? Personally, I would be having one of those obnoxious, sit-down, “You have all the time in the world” talks that never, ever work or persuade anyone. And then I would be thrilled for my daughter and start giving my unsolicited advice on absolutely every wedding detail.

I realize that Hollywood marriages are pretty much a punchline at this point, but this little girl is still someone’s daughter. And she’s following in the path of plenty of young actresses who felt very grown-up at a young age and chose to make a serious commitment that didn’t end the way they planned.

Plenty of people will be brushing off and deriding Cyrus and Hemsworth today. They’ll all say that the youngins just want to play grown-up. But I have to admit that there’s a part of me that really hopes these two make it work and laugh at everyone 25 years from now. Maybe I’m just a sucker for a love story. Maybe I just wish that kids had better role models when it comes to committed relationships.

No matter what else is said about Miley’s engagement, this much is true: We all feel a little bit older today, don’t we?

What do you think about Miley’s engagement? What would you say if it were your child getting married at 19?

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  • 1st-Time Mommy

    My husband and I moved in together when I was 19. I was engaged at 20, married soon after my 21st birthday. We’ve been married 6 years and have a 3-year-old son. While it’s worked out very well for us, I know I would be nervous if my son wanted to settle down so early. However, given how happy our family is, it would be hypocritical for me to try to dissuade him from a similar path.

    • http://www.facebook.com/lindsaychartman Lindsay Cross

      Yup! I know just what you mean. My parents were engaged at 19, married at 20 and having babies a year later. And they’re still happily married and the best role models I could ever imagine for successful relationships. Who am I to judge, ya know?

    • George

      That is great that it worked out for you, but you are the exception, not the rule. Most people who marry in the teens regret it, especially those who have something to live for other than to have babies. However at that age, people are in heat and mistake it for love.

      As a young man any woman that I encountered who married in their teens said that they regretted it because they missed out on so much life (and virtually every one of them is divorced or miserable in their marriage). They all said that if they had it to do over again that there is no way that they would get married so young.

      But, as you prove, there are exceptions to everything and you are a perfect example. However, with these two being Hollywood people and exposed to so much life, I really would be shocked if this lasts for more than a year.

      Hopefully she will not have any kids by that guy so that when they break it can be clean.

  • Eileen

    My mom pretty much extracted a promise from me not to get married until I’m at least 25. She did this by pointing to all of her friends and relatives who got married before then – who, by the time I was 14 or so and having this conversations, were all in their forties and either divorced or having serious marital struggles – and thereby won me over.

    I’m 23 with no engagement in sight, so I’ve kept my promise so far…

  • GaSoonerGirl

    MY husband & I have been close friends since 6th grade but did not start dating til we had graduated from high school. We got married a week after I turned 21. We will celebrate our 22nd anniversary in October and have a 18 year old son and a 12year old daughter. Five of my closest friends also got married around the same age, all but one couple is still together so I guess we have beat the odds so far but I would definitely be scared if either of my kids told me they were engaged at 19!!

  • CW

    I know a number of couples who married shortly after college graduation and are still together decades later. The only ones I know who married young and subsequently divorced were those who impulsively got hitched after only a short time together. Marrying someone whom you’ve only been dating a few months is not such a smart idea at any age.

    • http://www.facebook.com/lindsaychartman Lindsay Cross

      Even there generalizations can always be proven wrong. My husband and I got engaged after dating 6 months. My previous boss, who has been married over 15 years and has two beautiful girls, got engaged after just a couple months of dating. It all depends on the couple.

    • Suzanne

      My parents were together for less than six months before they married at ages 20 and 26, and it was truly til death did they part. So I agree with Lindsay about generalizations :)

    • Another Steph

      I think there’s a huge difference between getting married after a few months when you’re young, and getting married after a few months when you’re older. As a late teen/young adult, I don’t think you’re really entirely sure who you are, and I know that I’ve been about five different people in the past ten years.

      It’s different when you’re a little older (say, late twenties onwards, although that’s no definitive guide) because you’ve lived, you’ve grown up, you’ve probably had a couple of different relationships so you know what you want and how to compromise, etc.

  • Justme

    I’m less concerned about her age and more with the fact that she is a celebrity. Sure we all know those couples in REAL LIFE that have been together since they were practically kids, but how often does that same type of relationship work out in the intense spotlight that Miley is currently under?

    And…….who says that they have to get married right this second? Maybe they’ll wait a few years until she can, you know, LEGALLY drink at her wedding?

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  • Dawn

    I didn’t get married until I was 27. My husband and I got engaged after 6 weeks of dating and married 5 months later. However, we had a friendship several years ago when we first met. Lost touch, reconnected, fell in love, sweet story, blah blah blah.

    I am only hoping that this little tramp will move to australia with her new husband so that she can take her snaggle-toothed, Party in the USA somewhere else!