miscarriageNews of Michelle Duggar‘s miscarriage has made its round on the interwebs, and people’s reactions have ranged from kind (“I’m so sorry for your loss”) to downright mean (“I’d say after 19 kids you have #toodamnmany”).

Duggar just happens to be a mom of 19 children, but this whole thing got me thinking about miscarriages in general, and so how few people know the appropriate thing to say after a friend or family member has suffered  one. According to experts and, more significantly, women who have experienced a miscarriage, the right thing to say is something simple along the lines of, “I’m sorry for your loss,” or “I love you and I’m here for you.” Nothing more, nothing less.

But, despite our best intentions, we often say the wrong thing, which helps no one. Here’s our roundup of the top 5 things not to say to someone who has had a miscarriage.

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